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Trust in Relationships ~ Is Trust Really Earned?

trust in relationsipsIs trust in relationships

something that is earned or something that is built?

This question popped up after a very engaging dialogue with a group of people last night.  Here is, of course, my unscripted opinion on the matter of trust in relationships.

There is a false premise that “trust is earned”.  Trust is not earned, it is something that is built over time.  When you enter a relationships and you come from the position that the person you’re involved with must “earn” your trust, you are not allowing them room to grow with you.  You have placed upon them the expectation that they must put in  a lot of work to win you.  Most people, especially men, don’t want relationships to be hard, they want it to be easy and effortless.  Granted that is not always the case, and most times there will be challenges along the way.  But, this is where you can change your perspective on the matter of trust and building it, rather than expecting someone working to get it from you.

Trust in Relationships Doesn’t Have to Be Earned

When you make the decision to be involved with someone and you choose to build a relationship with them, you demonstrate over time that they can trust you because you ensure them by words or actions that you have their best interest at heart.  My advice is always come from a space of trusting first, then if that person shows you by some action that they cannot be trust, they have destroyed at that moment what was built to that point.

When you come into a relationship from the aspect that a person must earn your trust, you do not possess the ability to trust, and you must first deal with that baggage before you can expect to attract a partner that you can feel trust.  Trust in relationships is a feeling that only you can possess, the other person cannot feel trust FOR YOU…they can only feel trusted by you.  And when the absence of trust from you exist, it motivates a negative reaction and behavior that will validate that feeling of trust.

It’s really very simple…we think, we feel, we act…When we think that they person we are involved with will do something to hurt us, we feel insecure and suspicious; we then do things through our actions that send off the signal that we are not trusting them, or we feel distrust.  It is not their fault, it is ours.  We must control this by not projecting our distrust on our partners and find the core of the feeling and deal with it.

I say trust until he/she proves that they can not be trusted.  Then you have a valid premise for your feelings.





Book Release – Today, I Prayed…Manifesting Life Possibilities Through Prayer

book releaseBook Release

Today, I Prayed…Have You?

Today, I Prayed…Manifesting Life Possibilities Through Prayer is about those moments I experience in silent retreat that bring me joy, love, understanding, wisdom, guidance, and simply, Divine Power.

Prayer, no matter how you do it, is essential to a fulfilling life. Connection with your true self comes through the heart of your prayers. Your life is a direct reflection of your prayers, your words spoken in truth backed by emotion, love, and the Spirit of God.

It is no secret for those who know me, that prayer is a important part of my life and belief system.  The miracles I have seen my life and the lives of others are evidence of prayers answered.

Using the work of Charles Fillmore, founder/visionary of UNITY and one of the foremost leaders of New Thought, this work is about sharing effectual prayer methodologies filled with manifesting power.

Yes, “the effectual prayer of a righteous man avails much..”  ~  Are your prayers effective?  Do you know how to commence in a prayer purge?  The answer to these and many more questions are included in this dynamic, powerful guide to power-filled prayer.

Get Your Copy Today! and, please share…

Free Kindle Downloads – Valentine’s Day and Month of Heart Health

February is known to be the month of love and matters of the heart.  With Valentine’s day around the corner and Heart health being top of mind through all the efforts of the American Heart Association, I thought I would join in the fun!

Here are your free kindle download links – to heal your heart, prepare your heart, and share your heart!

2/1 – 2/3 – A Woman Like Me…A Man Like You

2/4 – 2/6 – a few choice words…The Power of Affirming Your Life, Positively!

2/7 – 2/9 – Before I Say I Do…Blissfully Single & Marriage-Minded

2/18 – 2/20 – You are a Possibility Waiting to Happen…Happen, Already!

Here’s to Matters of the Heart!


Free Kindle Downloads – Get Ready for Love

Happy New Year!
Time for Your Free Kindle eBooks

Wow…we are already looking at the end of January next week. That means Valentine’s Day is around the corner.

Well, I’m going to show you some love all month with Free Kindle Downloads of my bestselling books.

Mark your calendars –
2/1 – 2/3 – A Woman Like Me…A Man Like You

2/4 – 2/6 – a few choice words…The Power of Affirming Your Life, Positively!

2/7 – 2/9 – Before I Say I Do…Blissfully Single & Marriage-Minded

2/18 – 2/20 – You are a Possibility Waiting to Happen…Happen, Already!



Farewell, 2012

My Darling 2012,

When we started our love affair,
There was so much hope and magic in the air.

There were promises of dreams to come true, and some did, thanks to you.

But here we are, at our moments end –
Parting our ways, not even as friends.

Moments we shared we can never return;
Opportunities missed I’ll forever yearn.

You were generous most of the time
But you were also selfish,
and took what was mine.

One of the things you took from me
And gave to a man who would someday flee,
My heart filled with love, patience, and trust – now a void fills the space – but, move on, I must.

Even with the cruel jokes you played
You showed me favor along the way.

You brought prosperity to my door
You gave me opportunities galore.

You gave me strength, wisdom, and grace.
You gave me courage to stay in the race.

It wasn’t all bad, I must admit.
I had some good times, but now it’s
time to split.

There’s a New Year waiting for me – Goes by the name of Twenty-thirteen.

The allure of his coming is thrilling at best.
I wait in excitement – I can hardly rest.

The promise of things to come are sure,
My heart filled with love and patience will endure.

Upon the arrival of Twenty-Thirteen
I receive the gift of possibilities.
Things I thought lost will come again to me –
But, this time with permanence and a lifetime guaranty.

Farewell, Twenty-Twelve – it’s been a hoot.
But, now it’s time to give you the boot.

Forever in the past…
Kim Harris

Copyright 2012. Permission to share with acknowledgement to the author.

Your FREE Download! Kindle eBook – A Woman Like Me…A Man Like You

Greetings, Faithful Subscribers…

Here is your link to download my Kindle eBook – A Woman Like Me…A Man Like You –


Look for upcoming book release of “Before I Say I Do…Blissfully Single & Marriage-Minded” – Mark your calendar for Oct. 1st !

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